I know exactly where your mind went when you read the title. And perhaps you even thought to yourself, but what does that word have to do with lifestyle changes?
Despite having been called that a time or two…thousand times in my life, that’s not actually the word I’m talking about.
You see there’s an even dirtier B word out there, it’s one that we’ve all used multiple times, maybe you even used it today.
The Dirty B Word is…
Now before you chime in with your cries of “But Cara, I really AM busy,” hear me out on this.
I want you to think about every time you have described yourself as busy. Ask yourself, what does busy look like in my life? Think about a few times recently where the B word has come up for you, what did it look like?
It changes doesn’t it? Pretty much every time that words comes out of your mouth the meaning behind it is something different.
Some days, busy for me means choosing how to best optimize my time between when I get home and the imaginary bed time I attempt to set for myself every night. And by best optimize I mean choosing to watch the new episode of The Walking Dead instead of running because I half-assedly ran to class for all of the minute that I decided to care about being late this morning.
Some days, busy for me means I got home late and now I have to eat something and I have 5 projects due at midnight none of which I’ve started on. Why do I have 5 projects I haven’t even started on due at midnight? Because the world is very clearly conspiring against me, which would be true…
…if the world consisted of only me and my denial that I have a serious procrastination problem I have yet to overcome. But I digress.
Other days, busy for me means I’m up early running around all day nonstop and barely have a minute to breathe. Which turns into I’ve had a long day, my energy is low, I’m exhausted. And by the time I finally make it home I don’t want to do anything more than chill out in front of the tv.
I know some of you have kids or other family members to take care of and run around, I know you have other ideas of what busy looks like to you. I’m sure between all of us, we could list a million different kinds of busy in people’s daily lives.
Now I want you to think about how tied you are to that word. Does it define you, is it who you are as a person? If it were possible to ban the word, would you feel lost without it?
How many times have you responded to “How are you?” with busy?
How many times have you added descriptive words to let people know that your busy has evolved into a giant time eating monster. “I’m crazy busy.” “I’m super busy.”
How many times have you used it in an apology to someone? “I’m sorry I didn’t get this done, I was busy…” “I’m sorry I didn’t respond to your call/text/email/facebook message/smoke signals/carrier pigeon, I’ve been busy…”
So what is busy?
It’s an excuse, that is all it is.
It’s something we use to rid ourselves of guilt when we don’t complete something, or when we don’t meet a goal. It’s something we use to relieve ourselves of personal responsibility.
And most commonly we use it to get out of eating healthy and working out. I’ve done it multiple times, I would imagine most if not all of you have done it at some point too.
It’s super easy to use it too. There’s no real upfront consequence to telling someone you’re too busy. Because we’ve all just come to accept it. Every time someone says “Oh I’ve been too busy…” your immediate thought process is remembering a time when you were in their position, and you ultimately just give them the benefit of the doubt and respond with understanding.
But do you think your body really feels that way about it? Like sorry body, I’m too busy to get healthy right now. And your body is just supposed to be like, “Nah, it’s cool man I’ll just wait for a better time.”
No sorry, it doesn’t work like that. Your body is tired of your bullshit.
And it doesn’t take a body whisperer to know that. Your body has been telling you that all along, you’re just not listening. You know, because you’re soooo busy.
The reality of it is, we’re never going to be not busy. Sometimes we’re less busy, yes. But there is always something to do. And the more we pretend we don’t have time for things, the more we’re going to believe it.
But we do have time.
I think we’re all stuck in this mentality that if you can’t workout for an hour, two hours, etc, that it’s not worth it to do anything at all. And we have to stop thinking this way.
Ok so maybe you can’t run for an hour today, or go to zumba class, or lift weights. But shift your focus to what you CAN do.
Can you do some jumping jacks before you get in the shower in the morning? Can you go for a quick walk on your lunch break? Can you do some squats while you’re making dinner? Can you do some push ups during the commercials? Can you do some sit ups before you go to bed?
Your answer should be yes to something, maybe you even have more ideas after reading all that.
The point is we have a lot of down time, even on our busiest days. If you can wrap some kind of exercise no matter how small into something your doing, it can add up.
I’ll let you in on a little secret…twerk music is sometimes the best music to listen to while cleaning your house. It has a good beat, it’s easy to dance to, sometimes it makes you feel badass in an alternate reality where you aren’t well on your way to being a crazy cat lady at age 24. And you can kill two birds with one stone.
Yes, I’m suggesting what you think I’m suggesting.
The next time you have to clean your house, turn on some twerk music, and get in a twerkout* while you get real work done at the same time. Sometimes a bottle of wine helps too.**
*I assume no liability for any injury to persons or destruction of houses or other personal belongings. Twerk-Clean at your own risk.
**I especially assume no liability for anything that happens while Drunk-Twerk-Cleaning.
The point is, just find some way to move! Now granted, you’re still going to have to put in the time and effort for some more intense workouts during the week. But now you no longer have the “I’m too busy” excuse.
It’s important to take the time to make a schedule and stick to it, this can help get rid of some of the stress behind busy-ness too. I am absolutely horrible at making schedules, and even worse at sticking to them. And try as I might to train them, cats make shitty secretaries. So my new goal is to start taking the time to make schedules and stick to them.
I didn’t really touch on this, but it goes for making healthier eating choices too. Instead of saying you’re too busy, find ways that you can make changes. Drink an extra glass of water a day, cut out one soda a week, make a healthier recipe for one meal. This is a huge part of where meal prep comes in for me, I find the time to do it at the beginning of the week so I don’t have to worry about it the rest of the week.
So the next time you feel inclined to say you’re busy, think about why you’re really saying it and be honest about it.
Another goal of mine is to stop using busy as an excuse, and maybe you would like to join me in that too.
I’m sorry for not responding to anyone who has sent me smoke signals or carrier pigeons. It’s not that I’m busy, it’s just that I can’t actually read smoke signals and birds are terrifying.
Also you know what?